The Guy Who Pulls Away From You

I wish this was an easy answer or an easy fix. But there are guys for whatever reason will pull away when things are going great or even after a great first date and it baffles us. We try to understand why. We even text several times trying to figure it out. It kind of hurts when this happens. We even start thinking the worst. That somehow we got ghosted.

Lots of experts will say things like you did something wrong. There are things you can do to get him interested again. Don’t make these mistakes. Forget all the experts. I do believe everyone deserves answers.

Now don’t go cornering a guy you were talking to or went out a few times about how he feels about you. First you need to remember that if there was no relationship then there are no expectations or expectations of communication. I have learned this the hard way.

There is a guy I like a lot. However we went out once and then he pulled away right after. I did text a lot and confronted him in a way that was wrong. We talked things out. He explained work got crazy and that’s how he gets when work gets crazy. Then we went out a second time. The same thing happened. He pulled away again. So I texted him this and left him be. Remember that texting to much can become annoying. Believe it or not, most guys do not enjoy texting. Especially if they are really busy. I sent him this.

“Hey you:) I know you have a lot going on in your life. I know you hate texting and you are horrible at talking about things you want or that bother you:) You also do a weird thing where you kind of pull back after a date for one reason or another. I think maybe I kind of scare you sometimes. You seem like you feel kind of rushed or pressured at times. I don’t want you to feel like that with me.”

“I just want to say it’s okay. We don’t have to always text. We don’t ever have to cross any lines you are not ready to cross. I’ll go at your speed of things. I’ll be here if you need anything. Even if you should decide you are just looking for friends:) I will always have your back, whatever you need:)”

I then turned around later and wished him a great work week.

Granted he didn’t respond but he did read it because it showed he read it.

You basically open the door for him. Leave him be. If you don’t hear from him in a week, then give it another week. If you don’t hear from him by then. I would say it’s time to cut some loses and except it probably won’t work out. But this way you will know for sure. If he was ever into you he will respond within two weeks. I wouldn’t give it more then that.

“If he wanted to make time for you, he would’ve.” – Unknown Author

Published by Coach Jeanie

Self Love and Self Care Life Coach Odessa, Texas

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